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Leather, Whips and Fruit – Chapter 4

February 17, 2007


Rob Bell at whiteboard during “Everything is Spiritual” Tour. 

These chapter titles from Sex God, just keep getting better.

The chapter starts with the story of Tamar, the one that had Ammon for a brother and David for a father.   (talk about having wounds from your family)  If you remember Ammon pretends to be sick because he’s got a thing for his sister.

He rapes hers.

Rob points out that there are many things that we could discuss about this but wants you show us one verse.

But notice the next verse: “Then Ammon hated her with intense hatred.  In fact, he hated her more than he had loved her.”

What an odd thing for the writer to tell us.  The last thing you would expect to hear is how Ammon is feeling, let alone that he feels hatred.  We understand her repulsion, but his?

What is it about rape that provokes such disgust in him?…

…He gets what he wants and it makes him…angry?  What is it that turns him so fast?

What is it about that line “more than he had loved her” that doesn’t ring true?

It’s lust.

Lust can drive us to do frightening things. It can own us, it can take up massive amounts of head space, and it can make us miserable.

And once in a while, lust may even have something to do with sex.

The chapter is about lust and He talks a good bit about ‘head space’.  How it is slavery and how it is built on a lie.

There were so many things I underlined and thought were brilliant in this chapter but I will limit myself to a few more.

Rob tells how in Scripture it is called “having lost all sensitivity.”

The word sensitivity is the Greek word apalgeo.  It comes from the root word algeo, which means “to feel pain,” and apo, which means “lacking or going without.” It’s the condition of being void of or past feeling.  We could translate the phrase in Ephesians as “having lost the ability to feel lings like they used to.”

He mentions that lust always leads to anger.  Which I think is a great observation.

He talks about stealing and says, “Stealing is the ultimate in being stingy.”  Again Brilliant!  Following Paul’s advice he points out that, “Making something (with your hands) and giving it wasy is the ultimate in being generous.”

The chapter ends with a discussion of that it is not about stuffing down or denying those energies within you.  He says, “Maybe it’s as simple as asking God to show it to you, to give it to you, to make you aware of it.”

In the middle he suggests some great questions, I will leave you with them.

Questions about the things we crave:

What is this craving promising?

Can it deliver?

Is this lust about something else?

What is the lie here?

Where is the good in this person or thing?

Where is the good that has been distorted?

There are more but you’ll have to buy the book.

Next chapter ‘She Ran Into the Girl’s Bathroom’ 

8 Comments leave one →
  1. jeffjenkinsblog permalink
    February 17, 2007 3:21 pm

    Great Site – blessings!

  2. February 17, 2007 6:32 pm

    This is a great post, Tommy. Wow! What questions.

    Make me think . . . which is the whole point of the exercise.


    Cheers & Blessings to you today! Dee

  3. February 17, 2007 6:48 pm

    Lust always leads to anger…..interesting.

    I think I will have to buy the book….when it is available to us poor smucks!

  4. February 18, 2007 3:28 pm

    Ok, Ok…I’ll buy the book. Sounds like some powerful stuff. Thanks Tommy for sharing.

  5. February 18, 2007 10:28 pm

    I love those questions. Part of the challenge is stopping long enough to ask those questions.

    I fixed your url to your blog.

  6. February 19, 2007 12:02 am

    Jeff, thanks for stopping by.

    Donna, It comes out in March.

    Lee, I bet you would have bought it anyway!

    Amanda, didn’t take you long to come by and comment. Your welcome anytime of course.

  7. February 19, 2007 12:04 am

    By the way Amanda, for some reason your link from your name takes me to some 17 year old in Oklahoma’s blog. Does Paul know your only 17?


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