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Eggshells 2

April 26, 2007


Romans 14:1 1Accept Christians who are weak in faith, and don’t argue with them about what they think is right or wrong.

I don’t know how many arguments I’ve heard over the verses that follow this one that seems pretty clear.

Walking on Eggshells is not only related to matters of opinion, but often it is related to opinion. Amy had a great comment on the last post about that there are people we WISH (emp. mine) would accept us as we are. That is certainly one side of this issue. Wishing for acceptance. Wishing for a place to be real. A place where you are loved, not because of what you say or what you believe but because you are you. I think that is part of the grace of Romans. A few chapters earlier we are told to use the gifts your given (see Chapter 12 of Romans) Be who you were meant to be.

Sometimes being your true self. Letting the weight of your life for God rest on a person causes them some discomfort. Sometimes it causes them to have to chew on somethings that they may have avoided. But that can be really good.

I’ve been in churches where that was seen as “making waves” or even cautioned not to “throw out the baby with the bathwater” when that was never even in play. It was just a way of saying get back in line. There are places / groups where the pressure to conform is incredible.  It’s almost like the Borg.

It seems that churches have a culture. They like families have a set of unwritten rules. People know what they are. They know what can’t be talked about. But what if there was a family/ church where that didn’t exist?  Have you ever been a part of a church where everyone knew there were things you couldn’t bring up?  What were they?

More next time


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6 Comments leave one →
  1. April 26, 2007 10:06 am

    Do you think we have a responsibility to be our true selves and just let those who disagree with us know that we love them anyway? I don’t have much trouble (anymore) stepping out of the box and standing for what I think is right, but I still fear greatly hurting my loved ones by the way I disagree with them……

    along with your egg theme….I am just “chicken”

  2. April 26, 2007 11:23 am

    The desire for acceptance in most of us is so strong, we often don’t speak our mind. And because we don’t, for fear of rocking the boat, we miss becoming a community that is diverse and accepting. Growing up in the church the only ones that were not afraid to speak their mind were usually the negative-watch-dog type folks. They probably conditioned many of us to watch what we say. Nobody wanted those dreaded labels they could pin you with. What is interesting is that those labels, to those of us who have been set free, are now almost a badge of honor…wow…how things have changed.

  3. April 26, 2007 1:29 pm

    Have I ever been a part of a church where everyone knew there were things you just did not bring up?

    Are you kidding?

    When have I not been a member of a church like that?

    Well, now maybe I am at one- and it is refreshing for sure.

  4. April 27, 2007 2:54 pm

    Interesting series here, Tommy. I wrote a really long drawn out comment on one of your posts a couple of days ago, but then deleted all of it before I could print it for a whole lot of reasons, having thought better of what I was relating and deciding to take the high road. It was in reference to the Winkler trial and her daughter (being forced to) testifying and all (and my own horrific past with many similarities).

    I think I will here again today. There’s so much that could be said and probably should be said about all of these things, but I’m not feeling very well today and don’t have the heart.

    That’s sad, isn’t it? That the church (churches) sometimes sap us of all our strength and energy for good by demanding we “be” a certain way that is contrary to who and what we are (and God wants us to be).

    Keep writing . . .


  5. April 29, 2007 7:14 pm

    I’m still a member of a church where everyone knows there are things that you just don’t bring up. But I think people are bringing them up anyway, and in greater numbers than ever before.

    My preaching minister and I don’t see eye-to-eye on a lot of things. I’ve come to realize that ain’t necessarily a bad thing, and still respect him greatly (and love the guy deeply). Because we do care about the same things – especially the people who serve at our sides – and believe the same things – for instance, that God’s grace through Christ saves us.

    Most everything else is just opinion, and there seems to be room enough in our fellowship for a lot of those.

  6. April 29, 2007 8:54 pm

    Keith, that is healthy. Its not about that everyone sees eye-to-eye on everything but that you can see differently and still love each other.

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